In many ways, Matthew is just a little kid-- he runs around, sleeps in his big boy bed, eats just like the big kids, plays pretend, and so on. But in other ways, he is a bit different (beyond his physical differences). He communicates a bit different, he develops a bit different, and he seems to learn just a bit different too.
So, my biggest dilemma right now is-- what do we do about potty training? Do we treat him just like a little kid-- doing it up big in a day like we did with Alyssa and Jackson or do we treat him as if he's a little different and do something different than we've done in the past? I wish I had a crystal ball that told me the right course of action--which path leads to the best outcome.
Also in question-- when is the right time for Matthew? Alyssa was 2 and a half. Jackson was a little over 3. I thought that 3 was the perfect age, as Jackson was easy to train and had very few accidents. With Matthew, I question the timing because his developmental age does not match his chronological age (asynchronous development). And even his developmental age has great variation-- for example, socially he's around 3, gross motor is probably around 2 and 1/2, fine motor about 2, but verbally he'd be lucky to be called a year and a half!
What to do? What to do?