Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Same vs Different

In many ways, Matthew is just a little kid-- he runs around, sleeps in his big boy bed, eats just like the big kids, plays pretend, and so on.  But in other ways, he is a bit different (beyond his physical differences).  He communicates a bit different, he develops a bit different, and he seems to learn just a bit different too. 

So, my biggest dilemma right now is-- what do we do about potty training?  Do we treat him just like a little kid-- doing it up big in a day like we did with Alyssa and Jackson or do we treat him as if he's a little different and do something different than we've done in the past?  I wish I had a crystal ball that told me the right course of action--which path leads to the best outcome. 

Also in question-- when is the right time for Matthew?  Alyssa was 2 and a half.  Jackson was a little over 3.  I thought that 3 was the perfect age, as Jackson was easy to train and had very few accidents.  With Matthew, I question the timing because his developmental age does not match his chronological age (asynchronous development).  And even his developmental age has great variation-- for example, socially he's around 3, gross motor is probably around 2 and 1/2, fine motor about 2, but verbally he'd be lucky to be called a year and a half! 

What to do? What to do? 

1 comment:

  1. I think I would wait until he is settled into his new school routine. It will probably be easier on both of you. Elizabeth has been on her own schedule. At times she wore pullups to Kindergarten. Now she never has an accident during the day, but at night she still wears a pullup. She probably could be pushed now, but she isn't consistent enough that I want to try. I though would probably go for it all in one day and if it doesn't work wait a couple of months and try again. He's on his own schedule and its perfect for him.